We have all read plenty of articles encouraging us to go discover the world and other cultures. I’m here to tell you that you shouldn’t. You really shouldn’t do this. I mean, really, why bother? What does it actually give you?
- You go out of your comfort zone. EW. Who would like this? It’s comfortable in your comfort zone. That’s why it’s called a comfort zone. Duh. You have to re-learn how to do basic things, like getting your groceries, ordering dinner, using public transportation, dealing with all the bureaucracy. You might not even speak the local language. And imagine, if they don’t speak English!? So in addition to re-learning basic stuff, you might actually have to learn a new language! You challenge yourself in ways that you couldn’t even have imagined before leaving. This means that most probably, you won’t be prepared for all the situations that you’ll encounter. You realize that you don’t have control over things. This is scary. No one likes scary, am I right?
- You might fall in love. With a local, with another foreigner, with a new culture, or a country. God, why? Who needs those #feels? It’ll just make your life more complicated. It will mess up your initial plan that you had. It makes you weak and vulnerable, dreaming about things you previously didn’t even give a second thought to. You discover all the things you love that you never would have known existed otherwise, including people. This will mess up everything and make you question yourself and all that you are and all that you have ever been. Which leads us to …
- Either during or after the experience, you’ll be having an identity crisis. Or quarter-life crisis. Or some kind of crisis. You’ve lost the sense of home. Again, you question yourself, your values, all your friends more times than possible. It might break you completely, so that you could build yourself up all over again.
But in the end, after all this – you’ve become stronger, tougher, more tolerant, more understanding, and kinder. The experience has opened your mind, and all in all, made you a better person. And when you think about it, that’s not so bad though, is it?
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Author: Melani Kalev